Monday, July 28, 2008

Mamahalin mo ba ang taong kukumpleto sayo o ang taong kumpleto ang pagmamahal sayo?

Why would you choose that person?

Kumpleto ka kasi sa taong yun o mahal ka ng kumpleto ng taong yun?


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July 28 ko na post itong questions na ito at ngayon lang ako magsusulat. Nung July 27, I send this questions to all my friends whose using globe sim. Haha. Eh kasi unli ako that time. Out of 60+ users ilan lang ang nag reply. Mga lima lang siguro. Si fascinating_ann lang ung nag reply ng medyo may sense. Visit nyo pala blogsite nya sa www.relasyon.blogspot.com. I heard this question sa 96.3 WROCK ni Paul and Cherry.

Mamahalin mo ba ang taong kukumpleto sayo?

Why not diba? kasi siya ang kukumpleto sayo?. Eh diba kapag nakakilala tau ng taong kukumpleto sa atin? masaya tayo?. So hindi malabong mahalin mo siya dahil she/he made you feel complete. Madaling madevelop ka sa kanya.

Halos lahat sa atin na kapag nagpakita ng kabutihan, pagmamahal at concern ang isang tao ay madali tayong nahuhulog, naiinlove sa taong iyon kaya nararamdaman natin na pinupunan nila ang kakulangan natin bilang tao. So nagiging kumpleto ka.

Pero ang tanong?. Pano kung ung taong sa tingin mo ay kukumpleto sayo ay hindi ka pala mahal? pinaramdam nya lang sayo na simula ng dumating siya sa buhay mo ay naging kumpleto ka pero bandang huli ganun lang pala talaga siya concern, kind, loving? pero nalaman mo na hindi ka nya mahal? anong gagawin mo?.

Mag-ingat dahil may mga tao talagang pinanganak na concern, loving and kind. Haha. Talaga lang ah?. Pero meron ding iba na lumalabas ang ganito nilang katangian kung may gusto sila sa isang tao..


Ang taong kumpleto ang pagmamahal sayo?.
-parang ito ung katagang "ok na kahit diko pa cya mahal basta alam kong mahal nya ako , dahil maututunan ko rin naman siyang mahalin."

Here is my opinion: Ang taong kumpleto ang pagmamahal sayo?

-Masaya magmahal lalo na kung mahal ka ng taong pinakamamahal mo lalo na kapag kumpleto ang pagmamahal.

Eh paano naman kung kumpleto naman ang pagmamahal sau pero he/she doesn't makes you feel complete? and wala ka namang nararamdamang pagmamahal sa taong kumpleto ang pagmamahal sayo?.

Karamihan sa tao ay pinipili nila ang choice na ito, mas okay daw na mahal sila ng tao kahit hindi pa nila ito mahal dahil in the span of time matututunan din nilang mahalin ang taong nagmamahal sa kanila.

Pero hindi ba nila naisip na paano kung in the middle of nowhere ay hindi pa rin nila mahal ang taong nagmamahal sa kanila?. Mabibigla ka nalang sa malalaman mo na ang taong akala mong nagmahal sayo ay pinag aralan ka lang palang mahalin. Diba ang pangit naman tingnan nun?
At eto pa, dapat mahalin muna natin ang sarili natin bago ang iba?. I think in this choice pinairal ung tipong desparada na sa paghahanap ng pagmamahal o di kaya minahal mo lang siya para suklian ang pagmamahal nya. Huwag kayong magalit ah! kasi un ang tingin ko.


To sum up:

For me mas pipiliin ko kung saan ako masaya dun ako, bago ang ibang tao so
I'll choose Mamahalin mo ba ang taong kukumpleto sayo.


Mamahalin ko ang taong kukumpleto sa akin! at bakit? dahil hindi naman ako magiging masaya kung ung taong yun ay hindi naman ako kinumpleto. Para sa akin ang buhay ko ay masaya na malungkot pero kapag nakakilala ako ng kumukumpleto sa akin, she makes me happy and feel special I begin to love her. Kaya malabo akong hindi ma inlove sa taong kukumpleto sa akin kahit na ung pakiramdam na un at kasiyahan na un ay panandalian lamang at kung may dumating man uli na kukumpleto sa akin ay di malabong mainlove uli ako.

I'm willing to take the risk.


Ako kasi ung tipo ng taong hindi sumusuko pagdating sa pagmamahal. Kahit pa na alam ko na ung taong un ay hindi ako mahal..

Friday, July 25, 2008

kelangan magtipid






Panooring nyo ang 1st video blog ko. Mula gate ng subdivision namin hanggang sa labas
ng gate sa higway ay nilalakad ko para makatipid lang ng 9.50 sa tricycle, ang special ng tricycle ay 35php. Pagdating ko sa highway sasakay ako ng BUS. Ang Ordinary bus mula sa amin papunta ng ORTIGAS ay nagkakahalaga ng 32 to 35 pesos at ang AIRCON BUS naman ay 40 to 45 pesos.

Mula EDSA SHRINE lalakad uli ako papunta ng UNION BANK PLAZA BLDG.. Nandun na office namin.. Araw araw ginagawa ko ito dahil nakatipid ka na, nakapag exercise ka pa.. Watch nyo nalang ung videos ko.. SALAMAT!

Thursday, July 24, 2008

ERASERHEADS reunion concert !

Yes, it’s confirmed: The Eraserheads are reuniting after many years of being apart, not for good but only for one show slated for Aug. 30 at the CCP Open Grounds.

According to the STAR source, all the original members (photo) are performing — Ely Buendia, Buddy Zabala, Marcus Adoro and Raimund Marasigan.

This piece of good news should make the Eraserheads fans very happy.

Said to be the ‘greatest Pinoy band,’ the Eraserheads will sing all their hit songs, including Alapaap, Toyang and Ang Huling El Bimbo.
So much water, so to speak, has flowed under the bridge since the band broke up years ago.
Ely, who survived a heart attack two years ago, has formed two bands, The Mongols (which didn’t last long) and Pupil (still playing).
‘It took one big company to bring the former band members together,’ said the source who is keeping the company’s identity ‘confidential’ for the time being.
Really now, don’t the Eraserheads fans wish that the band would stay together not just for a one-night-only concert but for good...for old time’s sake?— Ricky Lo

source: http://www.philstar.com/archives.php?aid=2008071263&type=2

--------------------------Updates!----------------------

From the eheads yahoogroup!

Yes it’s true. It’s been in the works for several months na. Marlboro

is sponsoring this concert and paid each of the members a staggering

P10M each to do a full 45-minute set. This is the official

announcement:

“No more blind items my dear friends. Yes. We are confirming it.

There is no point denying:

August 30, 2008 will be LEGENDARY!!!

The country’s most influential band ever will be reunited for ONE

NIGHT ONLY.

This once in a lifetime experience will be staged at the CCP

opengrounds.

Tickets are free and you can download it early August. Website to be

announced.

ONE BRAND.

ONE BAND.

ONE NIGHT ONLY…

ERASERHEADS REUNION CONCERT!”

How to get tickets?

Ok it is confirmed that one of the greatest Pinoy bands will reunite for one night only on August 30 at the CCP grounds.

Now the question is where do we get tickets for the Eraserheads Reunion Concert? It says in the Eraserheads mailing list that Marlboro is sponsoring the said concert and the tickets are free to download. So what you do is go to the Marlboro website and sign-up to be included on their “red list”. You need to be 18 years old and older to register. You will also be asked to submit a scanned image of your valid ID (i.e. drivers license, passport, etc.) as proof of your age. Once you’re on the red list, then all you have to do is wait.



Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Panakip butas

Ano ba ang salitang panakip butas?. Sa pag-ibig ito ang sitwasyon na pakiramdam mo ay ginamit ka lang para makalimutan ang ang sakit na nararamdaman nya, para makapag move on.
Medyo magulo ba?. Halimbawa sa isang relasyon na nagkakalabuan na, hanggang dumating sa poin na nagkahiwalay na. Si babae hindi makalimutan ang nararamdaman nyang sakit, kaya isang araw naisipan nyang makipag date sa ibang lalaki. Lumipas ang ilang linggo dahan dahang napapalapit ang loob ni lalaki sa babae. Sinagot ni babae si lalaki at naging sila, Pero ang hindi alam ni lalaki na mahal pa rin ng babae ang nakaraan nya. Lumipas ang maraming buwan bago umamin si babae na mahal pa rin nya ang dati nyang nobyo. Iniwan ng babae si lalake ng makipagbalikan sa kanya ang dati nyang nobyo.

Masakit diba? ang gawin kang panakip butas.

Ito ang isa sa mga sitwasyon na tayo ay ginawang panakip butas lamang para makalimutan ng iba ang sakit ng kanilang nakaraan. Kawawa naman ang taong ginamit nila. Pero bakit nga bang maraming nangyayaring ganito?, ayon sa pagsusuri ko kapag ang isang tao na kakahiwalay lang sa isang relasyon o nagkakalabuan na at kung sino man ang napagpalagayan nya ng loob sa mga panahong iyon ay may malaking posibilidad na maging sila or magka developan. Dahil naramdaman nila ang comfort nung oras na lito, bigo, at hindi alam ang gagawin. Kaya marami ring nag ttake advantage sa mga ganitong sitwasyon. Pero mag-ingat ang mga nag ttake advantage, dahil 40% lamang dito ang mga naging successful ang relasyon matapos nilang kunin ang loob so meaning 60% ang nakaranas ng kabiguan ng panakip butas.

Masakit ang maging panakip butas lalo na kung mahal na mahal mo siya, pero para sa nang iwan sayo ay madali ka lang iwan ng ganun ganun nalang... Well, marahil nagpapasalamat pa siya dahil nkapag move on siya ng dahil sayo, Pero Kawawa ka naman diba? pero wala ka ng magagawa.

Monday, July 21, 2008

What is I E L T S?

IELTS is the International English Language Testing System. It measures ability to communicate in English across all four language skills – listening, reading, writing and speaking – for people who intend to study or work where English is the language of communication.

Since 1989, IELTS has been proven and trusted worldwide to provide a secure, global, authentic and customer-focused test which measures true to life ability to communicate in English. More than 6,000 education institutions, faculties, government agencies and professional organisations around the world recognise IELTS scores as a trusted and valid indicator of ability to communicate in English.

Over 1,000,000 people a year are now using IELTS to open doors throughout the English-speaking world and beyond. Especially Australia, New Zealand, Canada, United Kingdom and the USA. The test is taken every year across 120 countries, and is one of the fastest growing English language tests in the world, and sets the standard in integrity, research and innovation.

When the question is English language ability – IELTS is the answer.


For more info visit their website at http://www.ielts.org

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Do you and your lover seem to having an overall good relationship, except for the fact that they cannot commit?

I have been blogging for seven months, and for those past months I shared my thoughts, views regarding my experiences about relationships. I hope you learned something here.

I have a friend and she ask me where am I in favor. This is the question: "ano mas favor sayo, my commitment pero hindi responsible sayo or wlang commitment pero alam mong mahal ka"

I told her wala. Haha. Parang mali kasi yung tanong?.What kind of responsibilities ba? Is your special someone just doing this reponsibility for love?. This topic is so broad to discuss. I'll just explain the reasons of why people don't want a commitment yet. Pero you should understand na it is part of a relationship, part of loving!.

My friend is in favor on not having a commitment and the important thing for her is knowing that his special someone love's her. However, if there is no commitment, there is no assurance and security. Sino ba naman ang ayaw ng security and assurance sa love diba? pero still it's your choice.


In the first place, we live in a society where all of us have a lot of choices specially when it comes to the matter of choosing a life long partner. We often have true feelings towards our mate but what if he/she does not truly love us? If she/he not commit?.

Is he/she reluctant to commit? - This is the very first question you must consider before trying to do anything or taking your relationship to the next level. You see your mate will be ok to commit at all levels if he/she truly loves you. But if you feel that your mate is having some doubts or is not sure about whether he/she should commit or not then maybe they are not in love with you. Aha! I'm not done yet, below are some of the reasons why your partner can't commit.

Do you and your lover seem to having an overall good relationship, except for the fact that they cannot commit?

Being with a person who avoids commitment is not easy and sometimes can never be changed. There are many people who feel responsible or find ways to blame themselves for their partner not wanting to commit to them. Are you questioning yourself, believing that it is possible that it is something you are doing that is keeping you from getting the commitment you want? It could be, but 9/10 of the times, it is not.

So if it is not you and you and your lover are having a good relationship, then why does he or she not want to fully commit to you? The truth is, there could be a various amount of answers to that question, for it is different for everyone. However, there are common reasons why many people choose not to commit, and that main reason is fear. It could very well be that your partner never really experienced a fully committed relationship, or perhaps they had a particular experience in a past relationship that now has him or her afraid to approach another commitment. There could be deeper reasons, but these are the most common. Another reason many men and women fear commitment is because they are convinced that if they give their lover a full commitment, they will suddenly have their freedom taken away from them, disallowing them to be their true selves or doing the things they like to do and plan to do in the future.

Can you help improve this situation and get your lover to finally commit to you? Yes, there are ways you and your partner can work together in reaching this goal of commitment, but is not something you can achieve all on your own. The best thing you can do if you are involved with someone who cannot commit is to have a talk with him or her about it and ask him or her what exactly is making him or her doubt commitment so much. The next best thing you can do is be patient and give your lover the re-assurance that they are free to be whoever they want to be and that they can continue to do the things they like to do, and continue to plan the plans they have for their personal self. If they still avoid commitment after a while, then perhaps you should go to couple’s counseling, or ask yourself just how long you are willing to wait for you lover to pop the big question of commitment!



Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Why Are Some Relationships So Difficult?

Ever heard about how it's hard for someone to love you when you don't love yourself? It's a big relationship roadblock when one or both people struggle with self-esteem problems. Your girlfriend or boyfriend isn't there to make you feel good about yourself if you can't do that on your own. Focus on being happy with yourself, and don't take on the responsibility of worrying about someone else's happiness.

What if you feel that your girlfriend or boyfriend needs too much from you? If the relationship feels like a burden or a drag instead of a joy, it might be time to think about whether it's a healthy match for you. Someone who's not happy or secure may have trouble being a healthy relationship partner.

Also, intense relationships can be hard for some teenagers. Some are so focused on their own developing feelings and responsibilities that they don't have the emotional energy it takes to respond to someone else's feelings and needs in a close relationship. Don't worry if you're just not ready yet. You will be, and you can take all the time you need.

Ever notice that some teen relationships don't last very long? It's no wonder you're still growing and changing every day, and it can be tough to put two people together whose identities are both still in the process of forming. You two might seem perfect for each other at first, but that can change. If you try to hold on to the relationship anyway, there's a good chance it will turn sour. Better to part as friends than to stay in something that you've outgrown or that no longer feels right for one or both of you. And before you go looking for amour from that hottie from La sallle or Ateneo class, respect your current beau by breaking things off before you make your move.

Relationships can be one of the best and most challenging parts of your world. They can be full of fun, romance, excitement, intense feelings, and occasional heartache, too. Whether you're single or in a relationship, remember that it's good to be choosy about who you get close to. If you're still waiting, take your time and get to know plenty of people.

Think about the qualities you value in a friendship and see how they match up with the ingredients of a healthy relationship. Work on developing those good qualities in yourself — they make you a lot more attractive to others. And if you're already part of a pair, make sure the relationship you're in brings out the best in both of you.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Sa mahal ng pamasahe!


Ang ganda ng umaga ko dahil medyo malamig at masarap ang aking pag kakahimbing mula sa aking pagbangon.
Naghahanda na para pumasok sa trabaho.

Pagbaba ko ng Tricycle ay nakita ko ang Bus na KELLEN, sa una ay nagdadalawang isip ako kung mag OORDINARY bus nalang ako. Pero sumakay pa rin ako para malamang ko ang difference ng pamasahe noon at ngayon.

Nang aktong sisingilin na ako ng konduktor ay nagtanong ako kung magkano pamasahe papuntang ORTIGAS.
Hindi pa nya kabisado ang bagong TARIPA. Kaya nilabas nya ito at binilang. Ngayon ko lang nalaman na mula NORTH FAIRVIEW hanggang ORTIGAS ay labing siyam na kilometro pala ang layo nito 19KM. Nang sabihin nya sa akin ang halaga ng aking pamasahe. Ako ay nagulat at nagulantang dahil sa taas nito. Noon 30 pesos lang ang pamasahe ko! ngayon 42 pesos na. Kakagulat diba?. Twelve pesos ang halaga ng itinaas.

Sa mahal ng pamasahe ngayon, dapat talagang magtipid. 28pesos + 42pesos = 70 pesos * 2 back and forth total of 140 pesos everyday ko! hindi pa kasama ang pananghaliaan ko dyan ah!. Sa liit ng suweldo sa aking pinagttrabahuhan. Malamang taghirap na ang aabutin ko nito. Sana nga ngayong araw ay maramdaman na namin ang pagtaas ng sahod sa lahat ng antas! ung bente pesos ba yun?. Isama mo na rito ang paglagda ni pangulong ARROYO ng "Tax exemption for minimum-wage earners" ewan ko kung ang mga ito ay magiging epektibo na. Mamaya ko lang malalaman ito pagka sahod ko.

Hindi ko alam kung magagalit ba ako, pero wala naman hahantungan kung magagalit ako diba? dahil hindi natin sila masisisi. Sa pagtaas ba naman ng langis sa WORLD MARKET. Buti nalang ay nakita ako at napangiti ako sa maliit na ads. na nakadikit sa upuan. Ayan --->>>>
Meron pang ibang naka paskil.hehe..
Ang ganda ng araw ko, sa bus ay wala akong magawa, hindi naman ako makatulog kaka isip sa kanya. Kaya ang ginawa ko lang ay mag picture ng mag picture. Kahit sa elevator hanggang sa lobby ay picture ako ng picture.. Haha!.


Friday, July 11, 2008

What Makes a Good Relationship?

hen people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. They may doodle the person's name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing.

It sure feels like love. But it's not love yet. It hasn't had time to grow into emotional closeness that's needed for love. Because feelings of attraction and sexual interest are new, and they're directed at a person we want a relationship with, it's not surprising we confuse attraction with love. It's all so intense, exciting, and hard to sort out.

The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while. Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever. If a relationship is destined to last, this is where closeness enters the picture. The early passionate intensity may fade, but a deep affectionate attachment takes its place.

Some of the ways people grow close are:

  • Learning to give and receive. A healthy relationship is about both people, not how much one person can get from (or give to) the other.
  • Revealing feelings. A supportive, caring relationship allows people to reveal detail about themselves — their likes and dislikes, dreams and worries, proud moments, disappointments, fears, and weaknesses.
  • Listening and supporting. When two people care, they offer support when the other person is feeling vulnerable or afraid. They don't put down or insult their partner, even when they disagree.

Giving, receiving, revealing, and supporting is a back-and-forth process: One person shares a detail, then the other person shares something, then the first person feels safe enough to share a little more. In this way, the relationship gradually builds into a place of openness, trust, and support where each partner knows that the other will be there when times are tough. Both feel liked and accepted for who they are.

The passion and attraction the couple felt early on in the relationship isn't lost. It's just different. In healthy, long-term relationships, couples often find that intense passion comes and goes at different times. But the closeness is always there.

Sometimes, though, a couple loses the closeness. For adults, relationships can sometimes turn into what experts call "empty love." This means that the closeness and attraction they once felt is gone, and they stay together only out of commitment. This is not usually a problem for teens, but there are other reasons why relationships end.

Why Do Relationships End? -my point of view

I think Love is delicate. It needs to be cared for and nurtured if it is to last through time. Just like friendships, relationships can fail if they are not given enough time and attention. This is one reason why some couples might not last perhaps someone is so busy with school, extracurriculars, and work that he or she has less time for a relationship. Or maybe a relationship ends when people graduate and go to separate colleges or take different career paths.

Busyness is the great enemy of relationships.

If you give your time to something it means that it give more importance to you.

For sometimes, a couple may grow apart because the things that are important to them change as they mature. Or maybe each person wants different things out of the relationship they expect on their partner and if this expectations not meet they seek for it. Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not.

If you started to feel cold in your relationship try to analyze what are the reasons, problems, and from there if you want to save it talk to each other and decide. I guess the reason why a person gets cold, because she/he feels alone even your there for her/him. Go and let her/him feel your affection. Just don't say I love you in text or chat. Action speak louder than words.

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Healthy or Unhealthy relationships

by Jefford Secondes

Minsan pakiramdam natin na imposibleng makahanap nang nararapat para sayo -a
nd who thinks you're right for him or her! Kapag nangyari yun, you're usually so psyched. It's totally normal to look lalo na nasa unang stage palang ng relationship. Makulay na makulay ito. But some people, yung mga tipong makulay sa umpisa hindi nila alam na there's a blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship is not as healthy as it should be.

Ano ba meron sa isang masiglang relasyon?(What Makes a Healthy Relationship?) Hopefully, you and your bf/gf are treating each other well. Not sure if that is the case?. Tingnan nyo kung ang relasyon nyo ay may katangiang tulad nito:

¤Mutual respect (Respeto)- Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries. - Respeto sa relasyon dito nyo makikita kung paano nyo pinapahalagan ang isa't isa mapa desisyon man o anong bagay. Anong pakiramdam kapag hindi ka nirerespeto? diba nakakababa ng self esteem?. so in short kapag may respeto sa isang relasyon it shows how much important you are in a person.

¤ Trust (Tiwala) You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other. - Tiwala sa isang tao ay napakahalaga lalo na sa relasyon. Once na masira mo ito at malamatan ng ano mang kataksilan. Naku mahirap na ibalik ang tiwalang nasira. Para itong papel na pinunit mo pero kahit anong gawin mo para mabuo itong papel makikita mo pa rin ung lamat nito. Ganyan sa relasyon. Its not that naman na kapag nakita mo gf/bf mo na may kasama ay di ka na magseselos diba?. Tao lang naman tau, ang plastik mo naman kapag di ka nag selos. Ang pagseselos dapat nasa lugar.

¤Honesty (Katapatan)
- ito ay konektado sa katapatan dahil di ka naman magtitiwala kung hindi tapat sayo ang isang tao. Ito ang pinaka mahirap gawin sa isang
relasyon! bakit ko nasabi un?. Kung sarili mo nga niloloko mo minsan, ibang tao pa kaya?. Nahuli mo naba ang bf/gf mo na nagsinungaling?. Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky groun. On this, trust is fading.

¤Support(Suporta) - Hindi lang dapat sa masamang sitwasyon sinusuportahan mo ang partner mo. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). Sa masiglang relasyon, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on or not.

¤Fairness/equality (Pantay dapat).Ito ang pinaka gusto ko at sa tingin ko sa lahat ng naka relasyon ko ay ako lang give ng give. Sa relasyon you need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time. Pero in the end wala naman dapat sumbatan diba?.

¤Separate identities (pagkaiba).
In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should
have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.

¤Good communication.
You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men
and women don't seem to speak the same language. We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.

What's an Unhealthy Relationship?


A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior. Some people live in homes with parents who fight a lot or abuse each other — emotionally, verbally, or physically. For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. It's not! Many of us learn from watching and imitating the people close to us. So someone who has lived around violent or disrespectful behavior may not have learned how to treat others with kindness and respect or how to expect the same treatment. Qualities like kindness and respect are absolute requirements for a healthy relationship. Someone who doesn't yet have this part down may need to work on it with a trained therapist before he or she is ready for a relationship. Meanwhile, even though you might feel bad or feel for someone who's been mistreated, you need to take care of yourself — it's not healthy to stay in a relationship that involves abusive behavior of any kind. Warning Signs When a boyfriend or girlfriend uses verbal insults, mean language, nasty putdowns, gets physical by hitting or slapping, or forces someone into sexual activity, it's an important warning sign of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse.

Ask yourself, does my boyfriend or girlfriend:
* get angry when I don't drop everything for him or her? * criticize the way I look or dress, and say I'll never be able to find anyone else who would date me? * keep me from seeing friends or from talking to any other guys or girls? * want me to quit an activity, even though I love it? makasarili ba? * ever raise a hand when angry, like he or she is about to hit me? naku! * try to force me to go further sexually than I want to?

These aren't the only questions you can ask yourself. If you can think of any way in which your boyfriend or girlfriend is trying to control you, make you feel bad about yourself, isolate you from the rest of your world, or — this is a big one — harm you physically or sexually, then it's time to get out, fast. Let a trusted friend or family member know what's going on and make sure you're safe. It can be tempting to make excuses or misinterpret violence, possessiveness, or anger as an expression of love. But even if you know that the person hurting you loves you, it is not healthy. No one deserves to be hit, shoved, or forced into anything he or she doesn't want to do.

Under these two category which do you think your relationship is in? healthy or unhealthy?


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drained brain

- Have you ever felt this?

I hate this feeling especially when my mind get stock on a certain thing. I just keep thinking and thinking on that thing and later on I will notice that it consumes my brain energy. In this case I will suddenly feel headache and sleepy. It feels like my brain is being tangled.

Normally, I don't want to feel this every Saturday because I have my IELTS review. I can't focus on the facilitators discussions and exams.
I can't think well.

Last Saturday he gave us two reading task and one writing task. The writing task was this "IN SOME COUNTRIES CHILDREN HAVE VERY STRICT RULES OF BEHAVIOR, IN OTHER COUNTRIES THEY ARE ALLOWED TO DO ALMOST ANYTHING THEY WANT. TO WHAT EXTENT SHOULD CHILDREN HAVE TO FOLLOW RULES?". Jeez, I have many thoughts in mind but I don't know where to start and organize my ideas on the topic. I have to write 250 words in 40 minutes, imagine that!.

This is the thing I don't want to happen being drained brain, particularly on the IELTS exam itself. I'm a little bit under pressure because our Lecturer told us that we have to double time reading, writing, listening and speaking. He gave us advice to watch foreign films, read newspapers, avoid watching TELESERYE and take brain vitamins. I hope these advice works!.

Drained brain is my own words!. Hahaha. Not in Dictionary.

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Monday, July 07, 2008

Closure?

Break-up dapat bang may closure?

Pakiramdam mo bitin kapag malabo ang mga pangyayari.

Ito ay uso ngayon ang terminong "closure" it indicates the formal break-up of two parties involved in a romantic relationship. Naranasan ko narin ito, kayo in a months pero habang tumatagal nawawala siya. Hindi na nagpaparamdam at wala nang komunikasyon.

Mahalagang mangyari ito dahil dito kayo magkakaalaman at magkakalinawan kung tapos na ang ugnayan ng dalawang tao sa isa't-isa.
Kung walang closure, parang bitin. Ang hirap tuloy makapag move on.

Pero bakit nga ba mahirap kung walang closure?
Sa isang artikulong lumabas sa Psychology Today (PT), may tinatawag ang mga psychologist "open"and "closed" memories ng mga tao.
Ang mga isyung bitin o hindi na-resolba ay tinuturing na "open" memories.
"Open memories are the ones we still struggle to understand." We think about htem often, and still see them as a relevant to our current lives".

Sa mga pag-aaral ni Denise Beike, psychologist ng University of Arkansas, lumalabas na kapag walang closure ang isang memory o relasyon, "dwelling on then decrease self-esteem."

Maraming dahilan kung bakit naghihiwalay ang mga magkarelasyon. Merong nakahahanap ng iba, merong feeling ay nasasakal kaya umaalis. Merong gusto ng ibang challenge. Merong nagigising na lang sa katotohanang hindi na niya mahal ang kasintahan kahit walang third party.
Kung ikaw ang gustong humiwalay, mainam pa ring maging tapat sa totoong nararamdaman sa halip na biglang mag disappear sa karelasyon.
Kung nangangamba kang baka masaktan ang kasama mo, lahat naman ng paghihiwalay ay masakit di ba?
Risk talaga ang masaktan o makasakit sa anumang relasyon.
"You're breaking up because there's something fundamental one of you didn't get from the ohter --respect, honesty, trust, attention, understanding, help. That's what you should laser in on and explain to your partner".

Sa ganitong paraan, malinaw sa taong iiwanan kung anong naging mali sa relasyon.
Kung ikaw naman ang iniwan ng taong ayaw man lang magparamdam, magiging unfair ka sa sarili mo kung hihintayin mong magsalita ang ayaw nang makipag-usap.

Maraming proof na talagang taposna ang relasyon. Kailangang maging sensitive ka sa ganito. For example, your ex is ging around town with a new partner. Hindi pa ba closure yun?

Kahit gaano kasakit ang isang break-up , whether lantaran or bitin, may lesson na matututunan dito.
Kailangang balikan ang sanhi ng paghihiwalay, whether dahil sa kanya or dahil sa iyo.
Pagkakataon mo na ito para baguhin ang isang ugali o katangian na maaring nakaka put-off sa ibang tao.


Glossary:
Inquirer Libre (Cathy C. Yamsuan)

Friday, July 04, 2008

May gusto ka bang sabihin?

May gusto ka bang sabihin?.... Sounds familiar right? soundtrack cya ng Lovers in Paris (Huwag na huwag mong sasabihin). Eh sino pa ba ang kumanta kung hindi ang favorite local music artist ko, si
Anna Katrina Dumilon Nadal also known as Kitchie Nadal (born September 16, 1980). Jeez, I didn't know that we have the same zodiac sign (Virgo) September 11, 1983 kasi birthday ko. That's why I had this intense feeling, a music artist blood running through my veins. Haha! Asa ka pa Jefford. Yah, I'm telling the truth! I write songs, play the guitar, can easily pick up tunes, knows how to play the piano by only listening on its piece (pero ung madali lang na piano piece ah!). I really love music. I'm not good in singing. I dream and dream that one day I could perform with my own band in a certain concert, Performing my own composition. Though it sad to say, I think it will be just a dream forever.

--Marami akong gustong sabihin ngayon

-I noticed that my shoes was a quite old. Early this morning I begun to feel the water entering my shoes. Wahhh.. It has a hole and that's the reason when I step on the wet floor the water enters the hole to my socks and feet. I have a plenty of shoes, and I can't imagine why I always wear this. Maybe This is my lucky charm. I'm planning to buy a new one if it fits my budget.

-I thank Ms. Romalei (she was my girlfriend's bestfriend, a great Mom of Biel) for
the supper last July 2. Kapag nandun ako, parang feel at home ako lalo na kung
buhat ko si Biel. Very accomodating ang treatment nila sa akin. Hehehe.. Ingats!.


-Tomorrow July 5 na, fourty days ng Mom ni Mine. Unfortunately I won't be there because of my IELTS review. Speaking of IELTS bukas ay pang 4th week na namin. Three weeks nalang for final exam na. Sana I will pass the bench score of atleast 6 in writing, speaking, reading and listening. Drain brain nanaman ako bukas nito. Dapat marami akong baong ideas at english words bukas.

-Sana ma Implement na next salary ung increase at ung exemption sa tax!. Para naman hindi tayo hirap na hirap sa pag budget ng pera natin!.

-Updates kay Kithie Nadal?. Kahapon I saw her manager's message stat (parang gumagawa sila ng kanta uli). Ayun lang sa ngayon.

-Ang Kabarkada trip naming si Joan Corpuz na girlfriend ni Dhoc ay aalis na papuntang Dubai this coming Sunday. Kaya tom. we still don't know if she will treat us or not depending on her flight schedule on Sunday. God Bless to you Joan..

-I miss mine.

-Hehe.. Nakakatuwang isipin na kami dito sa opisina ay nag bblog na. It started with me, next to Jonathan and spread out to Gel, Susan and Jigs.

-Gusto ko kumita sa sideline. Like repairing Pc's, Set up ng Network and higit sa lahat! sa Blog ko!. God help me please....

-Nasan na kaya si Ate Vilma? I can't see her online. I hope okay na ung mom nya.

In this year I am living my life to the fullest!. Lalo pa nung dumating cya sa buhay ko.
I'm enjoying each everyday, kahit na very usual ung work ko. Kapag my freetime I tend to seek for a challenge enable to enhance my skills, I surf the net and feed my mind with a lots of information on what I read.


Wednesday, July 02, 2008

When love hits me!

By: Jefford Secondes

Love they say is the most wonderful thing you could ever feel. Nah! I'm talking here about falling in love with someone, to an opposite sex! (haha). Not with the same sex cause I'm not in favor with them. God made human, a man and woman only! nothing else. However, they are only human who forgot to know their real identiy. I can't blame them whatever they have with their life. I'll just pray for them.


How will you know if love hits you?

If love hits you! you will know, if you will feel totally satisfied happy glowing, trusting, secure willing to go any length to continue the feeling just a shame we all take a lot of little things for granted or forget to communicate. Questions, answers open to every conversation no limits, no judging just compromising. It takes two it is not a dream or a wish it is real. So if your questioning yourself then you should step by step, think about why and what makes you feel about this person and/or why your not completely satisfied when with him/her.

Take your time, everyone rushes love and it never works out anyway because when we are desperate we tend to fall short of many things we think we don't care about because we need attention and we attract the wrong partner.

Be happy with yourself be firm about how you feel what you want to feel because you have to be respected and happy with yourself before you can be fair to yourself. Don't settle for less it is sorta like when you shop you just don't buy something because it is displayed in the window. You make sure of what you feel.